THE REAL IMPLICATION OF MARRIAGE

Selfishness is the number one destroyer of marriages. Ask anyone that has ever done something that puts his/her marriage in jeopardy, you’ll discover that the root motivation of all they did was selfishness. The very moment you start to think for yourself alone and concentrating on yourself alone that is the moment your marriage will start falling apart.

If you know you are not yet ready or prepared to share all you are and have with someone else you’ll call your partner, then you don’t have any business with marriage. Marriage is far more than having lawful sex and making babies. It is a life of sacrifice. You choose to lose yourself the moment you decide to get married. Everything about you will now become ‘us’. Every decision you will take, you’ll have to consider how it will affect your partner and your marriage before they can be taken or implemented.

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Marriage is a union of two becoming one and everything that is done from then onward must consider the interest of the other else there’ll be a disaster. The moment you decide to take that lifetime commitment, you decided to delete every word that has to do with ‘mine’ and ‘I’ from you vocabulary and infuse words such as ‘we’ and ‘us’. If only we can learn to ask ourselves how every of our actions affect our partner and our marriage before we carry them out, we will be averting a lot of the misunderstandings we do have with our partners as a result of our selfishness.click here for great books on improving communication in your relationship

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When you were single, everything you had were yours but the moment you got married, everything you have and will have become ‘ours’ that is, yours and your spouse: your body, your life, Your job, your money, your privacy, your joy, your pains, your wealth etc. are no longer yours alone. Everything you were before you got married and what you’ll be after you’ve gotten married are no longer yours but ours(yours and your spouse). That is why you should be very careful of the decision you take after you’ve gotten married, because it will not only affect you but also your spouse and your children.

Marriage is a union; that is, you are now two individuals. Everywhere you go and everything you do, you don’t just represent yourself alone but also your partner. When people see you, they don’t just see you alone but also your partner. Thus, whatever you do that does not also consider the interest of the other should be avoided because it goes against the laws of marriage. If your partner is not going to benefit from it either directly or indirectly, then it shouldn’t be done. You’re not married to live for yourself anymore but for each other, if you can understand this simple principle, then you can easily make your marriage a heaven on earth. It is up to you.Click here for great books on how to improve communication in your relationship

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