6 WAYS YOU CAN MAKE GUYS APPROACH YOU MORE AS A LADY

I was watching  one of those relationship programs on TV and I saw this very stunningly beautiful lady stood up to ask a question and her question goes thus; “I’m beautiful and have a very great physique with a great personality but it bothers me that I can’t get or keep a man of my own.

I’ve overheard guys at my working place telling themselves that they find me attractive but none of them have ever made a move or intend to make a move at me because they think that I’m already taken, yet I don’t even wear ring on any of my fingers to work. How can I make the guys discard that view that I’m already taken and approach me? It’s really lonely here and I seriously need someone to share my life with.” 

Those were the exact statements she gave on that program and I couldn’t stop wondering why such a pretty lady would have no man in her life. I used to think that all beautiful ladies I come across daily already had someone in their lives, but my experience lately has made me realize that majority of the ladies are truly single and are feeling very sad for their inability to attract an eligible man even with all the beauty that they have been endowed with.

Why does it seem difficult for these ladies to be approached by the men that develop interest in them? Is it that the men don’t consider them attractive enough or they’re putting up a front that’s giving the men a wrong impression? How can you make yourself approachable as a lady and keep the men constantly coming to you? Here are 6 simple tips to help you position yourself in a way that men can easily approach you without fear of being embarrassed.

• Make yourself friendly:

There’s this saying that “he that’s in need of a friend should first and foremost make himself friendly.” Same applies to any individual seeking the friendship or a close relationship with others. You must always present yourself in a welcoming fashion that people would feel free to approach your without having any feeling of embarrassment.

If you’re observed to be open minded and easy to speak to, people would naturally be drawn to you. Guys are easily drawn to someone that make them feel comfortable and that they have no difficulty talking to.

Don’t always look serious and be quick to dismiss anyone that you think isn’t saying anything reasonable to your hearing, by so doing, you may just be discouraging someone else that would have picked interest in you from coming closer. Learn to make those around you comfortable in your presence and they will always long to be with you and know more about your person.

• Learn how to start conversation:

One of the fastest ways of stirring up a conversation with someone is by greeting and complimenting them. Instead of waiting for someone to always compliment or greet you first, learn to greet first and give sincere compliments. You start a conversation faster when you develop an interest in others.

 Giving out sincere compliments is one of the fastest ways of starting up a conversation. Don’t just walk away the moment someone you’re developing an interest in or find attractive greet or compliment you. Learn to return the favor and turn that into a little conversation.

When people feel that you find them interesting, they would always want to come around you. Though don’t make the compliment thing so often and make sure that you mean it, else you may not be taken too seriously.

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 Don’t be scared to walk up to someone and start up a conversation with him. Guys are attracted to women that know how to start and keep a conversation going. Don’t act like one of those ladies that reply any questions they’re being asked with a mono-syllabic word. That’s one fast way of turning some people off, as they’ll think that you’re not interested in the conversation and wouldn’t want to bug you any further.

Be open to start a conversation or keep a conversation going and you’ll be amazed on how easily men will be flocking around you because of your open and welcoming nature.

• Let go of every proud attitude:

A man can sense when a woman is proud from a thousand miles away and tries to avoid her like a plague. When you’re sensed as being proud, you limit the number of guys that are likely to come your way. A proud lady is seen as rude and disrespectful, hence no same man will want to cross her path because he wouldn't want to be disrespected.

proud people weighs people’s worth based on their achievements and treat those she thinks are beneath her disrespectfully. When someone that you’re actually developing an interest in sees you treating some other guy rudely or badly, he would be scared to come close to you to avoid being given the same treatment he’d witnessed or heard you giving to others.

Put off that coat of pride and start relating to people based on who they are and not what they have achieved or have and you’ll be surprised at how easily guys will be coming close to you to pour their hearts out.

• Have a cheerful spirit:

Having a smiling and a cheerful outlook makes you look more approachable and appealing. There’s a huge difference between making oneself friendly and having a cheerful spirit. You can feign being friendly with someone but you can hardly feign cheerfulness because it comes from within.

 When you are seen as someone that’s always happy and joyful, people would always want to come to you. Happy people attract people the most because they would want to know the source and reason for such happiness. And that is one very good avenue for stirring a conversation with others.

If you want to know the effect a cheerful behavior have on others, just choose to go to work on a particular day and put on a very gloomy face and note the number of people that would come to you to know what has gone wrong. And do the same putting on a cheerful attitude and note the number of people that would want to know what’s going on.

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The truth is that people easily associate with someone that has a cheerful attitude than someone that doesn’t. so should you want to bring more people your way and increase the number of people not only showing interest in you but following it up with an approach, learn to put on a cheerful attitude at all time. Smile more, act more lively and happy, and people would feel more at ease coming and talking with you.

• Learn to mix up with others:

Don’t put yourself in seclusion and expect people to always come to you first. Learn to mix up. When you see a group of people discussing and having a good time around you, stylishly move closer and hear what they’re talking about, and if it’s something of interest to you, join them and chip in one or two things in the discussion. Mixing with people would also make them know how interesting you are and develop interest in you in the process.

Learn to mix up with people and join in whatever they’re doing and you’ll see how easy it will be for them to come to you and develop interest in your kind of person.

• Stop turning others down with the “I’m in a relationship” line:

Majority of single ladies seeking a partner often do this. I can’t really tell if they do it subconsciously or intentionally. Ladies do this when they want someone that they’re not interested in to get off their backs. You don’t need to lie in order to make someone lose interest in you. If you don’t like the person, simply and politely tell him that you’re not interested instead of lying to be in a relationship.

There was this situation that happened some time ago. A guy saw a lady he finds attractive and approached her. Instead of the lady to tell him that she’s not interested, she told him that she’s in a relationship, so as to put him off faster.

On another occasion, that guy and two of his colleagues were at a canteen eating when that same lady walked in. one of his colleagues developed an interest in the lady and told the other two that he finds her attractive and wanted to approach her. Before he could make a move, the first guy the lady turned down previously quickly warned him that the lady is already in a relationship and that he would be going to make a fool of himself. Since he did not intend to make a fool of himself, he quickly took his seat and put aside any thought of approaching her.

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I know that there are some guys that would still want to try irrespective of what they’ve heard, but not all guys would want to do that because they would want to save themselves from any possible embarrassment.

 So ladies, should you not be in a relationship, don’t tell people that you’re in one because you might just be discouraging your prince charming from coming to try his luck of winning your heart when the time comes.

The way you present yourself determines the way you’ll be addressed and hence the sort of people that will be coming your way. When you present yourself to be friendly and welcoming, people won’t have any difficulty associating with you, but when you present yourself in an unfriendly way, people would have no choice than to keep off from you. So show yourself friendly if you want to increase your chance of meeting your prince charming.