WHAT DO YOU MEAN WHEN YOU SAY ‘I LOVE YOU?’

The statement ‘I love you’, is one statement that has been so much used out of context that one begins to wonder if there is still power in the statement - ‘i love you.’ so many people hide under the guise of professing love to carry out their selfish plans.

That is why it is very vital that one seeking a serious and dedicated relationship with the opposite sex understands what the one saying that powerful statement, ‘I love you’ to him/her really means.

Different people define things according to the way that it suits them, that doesn’t mean that is actually what that thing is. The fact that an individual chose to call a stone an iron doesn’t make the stone an iron. But to that individual, that stone is an iron and that is how he/she is going to relate with the stone because he sees the stone as an iron. Same applies to the word ‘love.’ The way an individual defines the word 'love' is the same way he/she is going to relate with it.  You need to be very careful with these categories of people because they use the statement ‘I love you’ into manipulating others so as to achieve their selfish aims

For one to know what the word love really means, one has to look at all those things that love is not. We know that love is not money, love is not sex, love is also not beauty nor handsomeness, love is not generosity etc. the bottom line is that love is not selfish.
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When you’re in a relationship with someone that only tells you ‘I love you’ when he or she wants something from you, you should understand that is what that person’s love for you is about; that is, to meet his/her personal needs. So many people only say the word ‘I love you’ because they have a selfish aim that they want to achieve. I must say again here that love is not selfish, neither is it manipulative. You love someone with the mindset of giving and sharing not with the mindset of receiving alone.


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There is a part of the scriptures that says ‘God loved us that was why he sent his son (Jesus) to come and die for our wrong deeds in order for us to have access to him. You can’t love without giving. Every time you tell someone ‘I love you’ should be because you have something valuable to add to that person’s life. But, most people only say the word ‘I love you’ when they want to receive something or manipulate the other person to give them something.

That is why I advice anyone truly seeking for a lasting relationship with the opposite sex to understand what the other person professing love for him/her actually wants. Because what you think love is might be very much different from what that person might think love is.

 The way a person defines love is actually how they are going to relate with you in that relationship. So you have to be sure that both of you are speaking the same love language, else you would only end up giving yourself, your time, your emotion and resources to someone that doesn’t truly care about you.
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