Building and keeping romantic relationship with the opposite sex
Most people in committed
relationships are now beginning to use the excuse of “what if it fails?” To
prevent themselves from doing what they ought to do in order for the
relationship to move forward. They are failing to realize that their actions
are already creating strains on the foundation of their relationships because
of their unwillingness to invest themselves fully in the relationship. You
cannot partially give yourself to something and expect that thing to give you
the best outcome. Look, if your relationship is ever going to work out well or
stand the test of time, you must be very willing to give it your all:
regardless of your past experiences or what you have seen/heard.
One thing about successful
relationship that most of us are failing to understand is that; successful relationship
doesn’t just happen: it is a product of well calculated work - love and
sacrifices. No relationship can ever succeed without these two important
foundational elements – love and sacrifice. Most of us want to reap the
benefits of successful relationships without doing the work required to make
the relationship what we want it to be. We allow the thought and fear of “what
if?” prevent us from giving our best and our all to the relationship and we
keep wondering why our relationships don’t seem to be working out.
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Relationship is a journey and for you to
travel that journey successfully and comfortably, you must first equip yourself
with all that is required to make the journey pleasing and comfortable for you
before you embark on it. Some very important things you must also note before embarking
on such journey are, knowing why you are embarking on such journey, knowing the
right route you need to take in order to make the journey pleasing, knowing
what you want to achieve from the journey and knowing what you have to do or
give in order to make the journey a success.
Most of us already know why we want
to be in a relationship but most of us don’t know how to attract the right
partner and what we have to do or give in order to make our relationships move
in the right direction when we eventually find the right one. Some of us keep
living in our past and we allow our past relationship failures to becloud our
minds that we tend to rate everyone that shows interest in us in the same
category with the people we’ve had in the past. We fail to realize that people
are different and that we have a responsibility to do a serious investigation
on the ones showing interest in before giving ourselves to them.
If you truly want to stand the
chance of succeeding in a relationship, then you must learn to treat each
individual as different and be willing to spend your time to know about ‘the
individual’ that is showing interest in you and then decide if that is the kind
of person you want to build your life with before giving yourself to him/her. Because
relationship is all about building our lives with someone we fancy and cherish
and that will also be willing to do the same with us. Thus, if you know you don’t
see yourself giving such an individual your all, there’s no point being in a
relationship with such a person because it will amount to a waste of time,
emotion, resources and also add to your archive of failed relationship
experiences.
So in summary of what I have been
saying thus far, if you want to build a successful relationship with whomever
you’re with or the next partner that you’ll give yourself to, then you must:
- Know why you have to be in a relationship
- Know the kind of person you think can make your relationship dreams come to reality
- Know how to attract such a person
- Be willing to investigate or find out about any individual sincerely interested in you before giving yourself to him/her
- Be willing to wait till you’ve met the right person that can make your relationship dreams come to reality
- Know what you’ll have to give in order to make your relationship expectation(s) come to reality
- Know that every individual is different and treat them according to your discoveries about them: not according to your past experiences.
- Know that hard work (love and sacrifice) is a necessary requirement for every successful relationship
- Know that relationship is wonderful and interesting if it is entered with the right mindset and partner. Etc.
Your relationship is first what you
think of it, followed by the type of person you are; as this will determine the
type of person you’ll attract and open your heart to and finally, what you
willingly invest in it without holding back. If you want your relationship to
succeed, then you must be very willing to do the work needed in order to make
it a success. Don’t be deceived, every successful relationship is a product of “hard
work - love and sacrifice”.
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