This is a continuation from the previous part. We’ve stated previously that in order for you to lay a healthy foundation for your relationship, the first thing you need to do is “to be yourself”
The next thing you need to do in
order for you to lay a healthy foundation for your relationship is to;
- Be Truthful And Honest:
When your partner can count on your words,
he/she would never have any cause to think twice before acting on them. When
you can claim responsibility for your words, you can gain trust easily. Don’t
be known as a double mouthed individual whose words cannot be taken seriously.
If your partner have difficulty believing what you say, your relationship is
already doomed. Relationship can never move forward in an environment of
falsehood and dishonesty.
Be truthful to yourself and your
partner from the onset and make sure that you don’t say things you don’t mean.
Always mean what you say and say what you mean. And be willing to act what you
say. That way, your partner will always stand by you because he/she knows that
you’re not a random talker.
- Know What You Want From your Relationship:
Why are you in that relationship? So
many people go into relationship without having in mind what they want from it.
Before you can embark on a building project, you must first decide the purpose
of the building; if it’s going to be for commercial purpose or for residential
purpose. So that you will know how to construct it.
We shape our relationships according
to what we aim to achieve from it. If you don’t have a clear definition of what
you want from a relationship, your relationship will have no direction. When you
know what you are looking for, you can be able to access your partner if he/she
is able to give you what you are looking for in that relationship.
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Also read: How to avoid heartbreak in your relationship
Some people are looking for
commitment while some others are looking for someone to bear their burdens etc.
defining your relationship from the onset by stating clearly what you are looking
or aiming to build from the relationship will help you in assessing the people
coming into your life if they will be able to give you what you are looking for
or aiming to achieve from your relationship.
- Know your roles in the relationship:
Relationship is a game of two people
meeting each other’s needs. You can’t enter into a relationship with an empty
hand and hope to get something meaningful in return. It’s only a fool that
would want to build a house and not sit down first to calculate the cost
involve in erecting such a building.
Relationship is work. You can’t get
any meaningful benefit from it if you don’t go into it prepared. You are in the
relationship to meet the needs of your partner. So, you should prepare your
mind on the kind of roles you’re going to play to him/her. Both of you must
bring something tangible to the table for the relationship to be a success.
Preparing your mind for the roles you would play helps in preparing you for
those times when the relationship would start placing huge demands on you.
- Let love be all that matters:
Why are you with the person that
you’re with? If he/she loses that thing that you’re attracted to, would you
still be with him/her? Love is simply accepting someone for who he or she is.
If you can’t accept his/her ugly nature, you can’t love them. Every
relationship has up and down times. The love both of you have for each other is
what will hold you two together when the stormy weather blows to your
direction. This is actually the time when partner’s real motives are revealed.
Money, good looks, great physiques,
etc. are good. But do you think those are the things that are necessary to have
a great relationship? When one can’t distinguish between those things that are
necessary for building a healthy relationship and those things that are not, one is very much likely to make
mistakes in the choices one is going to make. Let your love for you partner not
stem from things that are easily degradable but from things that are eternal
and from the heart. As those are what will hold your relationship together and
make you want to fight on when every other thing says you should give up.
Laying a good foundation for your
relationship from the onset is very vital for building and keeping a successful
relationship. The way you start your relationship will determine how far the
relationship will go. Always ensure that you present yourself for who you are from
the onset as that is the basis for building love and trust in any relationship.
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