Heartbreaks are common among partners in relationship that are not heading in the same destination. When you want something serious from your relationship and
you decide to hook up with someone that isn’t yet ready for commitment, heartbreak will become inevitable.
Relationship is a game for two and for that game to run smoothly, both partners must go into it with oneness of heart and be willing to give it their best shot. I know that people go into relationship for various reasons, but if your major reason for being in a relationship is to get a committed partner and the partner you’re with don’t seem to be ready to do that after both of you might have spent a considerable amount of time together, it would do you a whole lot of good if you could move on from such a relationship.
You can’t make a head way in your relationship if you’re the only one that wants something serious from it. It is a complete waste of time and energy for you to stay and invest all you’ve got in relationship with someone that isn’t ready for commitment when all you want is a committed partner.
You can take a horse to the river bank but you can’t force it to take a drink. Why should you bother yourself trying to force him into what he’s not yet ready for or want to commit to? A horse that is thirsty won’t need to be pushed or flogged before it would take a drink when it comes in contact with water because it knew it needed it. Same applies to guys. If he hasn’t made up his mind to commit to you, there’s actually nothing or very little you can do to make him do so.
You may have all the good qualities any responsible single man could wish for in his ideal woman, but if he hasn’t made up his mind to make you the one or to settle down, there is actually nothing you can do to make him change his mind. Never try to force yourself on him or give him an ultimatum. You’re only going to make him up his game in dealing with you and make you believe that he’s ready when he’s actually not.
When a man is ready for commitment, he won’t fancy singlehood or the life style of jumping from one woman to another any longer. He’ll become more responsible with his life and relationship decisions and won’t be told or forced to commit to the woman he loves before he’ll do that because he is ready for the next stage in his life. Every man gets to this stage at a point in their lives but until he gets to that point, you hardly make him do that.
One mistake most single ladies hoping to get the commitment of their partners do make is thinking that they could actually make him get to that point faster by giving him the benefits only married people are supposed to enjoy. Unknowingly to such ladies, they are simply making him relent the more from giving them what they desire of him. Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free?
I know that so many of you would want to know how you could make him arrive at that point where he is ready for commitment faster? The truth is that “You don’t need a partner that you have to force or prove yourself to in order to get him to commit to you. I know that some men naturally have commitment phobia, but a man that is ready for commitment won’t need any form of persuasion from the partner he loves before he’ll do that.
You need a man whose major reason for asking you out is because he’s considering the possibility of you both spending your lives together. When a guy comes to you for the first time, what do you see? Do you just see his good looks, flashy car, fat wallet etc. Or you also look at his readiness for making real commitment with you should both of you feel mutual attraction for each other.
When you place your sight on your destination, you hardly lose track of where you’re going. Understand that in the journey of relationship, there’s no space for time wasting as you can hardly catch up should you decide to waste any time, so it would do you a whole lot of good if you could access any one showing interest in you to ensure that both of you are on the same track-wanting the same thing, before giving him your heart.
Don’t be among those that realized when it’s too late that they’ve been wasting there time with someone that isn’t ready to make any serious commitment to them. Relationship is not all about the good things that he’s showering you with or the sweet words of persuasion to make you do things that you’re not ready to do initially, but having someone that values you and willing to take a risk in building a long lasting relationship and risk every aspect of his life with you.
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