Someone once asked me ‘what I thought was one of the common causes of sadness and depression?’’ And I subconsciously
said,
“ungratefulness for the little things that we are blessed with in life
and regret for what we don’t have or cannot change”. Yes, people that hardly
see the little blessings in their lives live in complain and regret which are
among the most common causes of sadness and depression.
Sometimes, we focus all our energies
lamenting on the few things that we don’t have and we would start comparing
ourselves with some of the people around us that seem to be living the sort of
life we hoped to live. We look at the acquisition of those around us that seem
to be doing well and start wondering what we have be doing with our lives all
these while when others a busy making head-way. Such attitude may make us see
life as being unfair and we would start feeling sad and depressed because we
would feel like we have been left behind in the scheme of life.
When you start measuring yourself
with others, you would fail to see the good things that you have that those
people you’re measuring yourself with don’t have. Rather, you would exaggerate
the things they have that you don’t have and belittle the things that you have
that they don’t have. Therein lies the beginning of regret and unhappiness and
when this unhappiness has spanned for a longer time, it advances into
depression.
The moment we start focusing all our
energies on those things we don’t have and feel pity for ourselves for not
having them, we place a kind of barrier on our minds that tend to shut our
senses to the good things that life has to offer us. And the more we wallow in
such pit of ungratefulness and regret, the deeper we sink into the pit of
sadness and depression.
Yes, some folk that you know might
have achieved far more than you do and they might seem very happy and
fulfilled, but until you go close to them, you would never know what some of
those people that you’re admiring and killing yourself over their achievements
are actually going through.
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You may not have gotten all that you
want or are looking for in life, but you are not where you used to be either.
Regardless of how little the progress you’ve made may seem, it is still an
improvement from what or who you were before now. You may not have gotten that
big car, house, job or whatever it is that you dreamed of, but you still have
life, good health and hope for a better future.
Those are things worth appreciating
and celebrating. Focusing all our attention on those things we don’t have
closes our hearts and minds from facing the future with a more positive outlook
that it would get better. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been struggling,
but the moment you stop believing that you would make it and immerse yourself
in regret and complain is the moment you open your door to sadness and
depression.
Everything in life is programmed
into seasons; and every new day in life brings with it beauty and
opportunities. The fact that some other people’s season has come and yours is
yet to come doesn’t mean that it wouldn’t come. But the question is ‘would you
still be found hopeful and prepared when your season actually comes? Or complain and regret would have made sadness
and depression eaten you up before then?’
The more we appreciate God for the
little things we have, the more he’ll continue to take care of us and open our
hearts and minds to the new opportunities each new day brings. Don’t live life
counting how big other people’s blessings are and forget the ones that you’ve
got. If we could open our hearts and truly appraise the things that God has
blessed us with, we would realize that we’re actually among some of the most
privileged people in the world.
One therapy to having a life that is
devoid of sadness and depression is to learn to count those things that God has
actually blessed us with and celebrate them. Appreciation is one very easy cure
for sadness and depression that a lot of people hardly pay attention to because
they are already used to complaining about things they can’t change.
We should understand that life is
actually in seasons and one day the season for our own fullness would come.
Never stop believing in yourself and hope in achieving your dreams. You’re
actually worth more than what you think you are. If only you could see that,
you would learn to face each day with more zeal and enthusiasm.
Learn to live life appreciating and
celebrating your little achievements irrespective of how little it may seem and
you would discover that you would always be looking forward to the new
opportunities life has to offer and sadness and depression will hardly come
near your abode.
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