HONESTY; THE BUILDING BLOCK OF EVERY TRUE RELATIONSHIP

I heard a story about a woman that sued her husband for lying and deceit three months into their marriage when she discovered that he was epileptic. You might have heard several reasons for couples splitting up not too long after their marriage as a result
of one of the partners holding back vital information about himself/herself that would have been a deciding factor in such relationship.

How could you really show that you love someone or know that someone truly loves you if you are scared of letting him/her know your weaknesses or deformities? Understand that if he/she could not accept your weakness or deformity, he or she can never accept you – whether you’re married or not.

I understand that the fear of rejection and being made a subject of ridicule is one of the major reasons why some people in serious relationships keep some vital information about themselves from their significant other. If he/she can’t accept it now, what makes you think that he/she will accept it latter?

Maybe you’re thinking that he or she would accept it later because by then they would have made a form of commitment to you. Nay, I don’t think so! You would only succeed in creating resentment in his/her heart toward you when he or she discovered that you withheld some vital information about yourself from him/her that would have been a deciding factor in your relationship.

Someone once said that “a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage.” you will save yourself from a lot of trouble and pain by being open about yourself and let him or her decide if they’ll still stay by you with such weakness or deformity than allowing fear shut you up and you later discovered that he/she refused to accept you and your weakness when they discovered it; even after making a commitment to you.

Most of us think that commitment would make our partner considerate when they later discover our severe short comings or weaknesses we fail to reveal to them when we were courting. Nay, it would only make them feel cheated and deceived, and their thoughts and view about you would change entirely.

When you fail to be honest about yourself to your partner and they later discover it, they would start seeing you as someone that is selfish and self centered. There’s nothing that you would do or tell them that would make them believe you have their interest at heart

 True acceptance and love stirs from being open about oneself and ones state. You could tell how far your relationship would go by simply observing your partner’s reaction to your weaknesses or deformities. It would do you a whole lot of good if you’re open about it and know where youstand in that relationship than keeping it to yourself and he/she later discovers it and react negatively to it; thereby causing everything you’ve invested your time on and built over the years to crumble before your eyes.

 Your honesty about yourself and your state is just all you need to know where you stand in that relationship and how far such relationship is likely to go.

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