Disagreement is a
normal occurrence in everyday life because the individuals we relate with daily have different beliefs, values, perception, tolerances and are brought up under different environments which determine their way of
reasoning and behaviors.But when a disagreement gets to an argument, one needs to tread with caution because this is the stage where physical abuse is likely to occur. Some of us some times become overly reactive and
sensitive to some simple disagreements with our partner that we are likely to make an argument out of them and take them to unbecoming proportions that it will later result to a situation where invectives or
physical attack will become inevitable.
How do you deal
with such people or such extreme situations when they occur? Below are some
simple tips to help you maintain your cool and prevent you from unwarranted physical attack during disagreements or arguments in your relationship.
- Know when to shut up and walk away:
This is really
vital for preventing such unreasonable physical attacks during a disagreement or argument. If most of us could learn to
take a walk from such environment when the situation appears to be getting out
of hand, we would save ourselves from some unnecessary trouble.
When you sense
that the situation is getting out of control, simply pause and take a walk from
such an environment so as to calm your head down. Because the longer you remain
in such a heated environment, the more you’ll keep responding to the other
person and the more likely for violence to occur.
Taking a walk
from such a tensed up environment doesn’t mean that you’re scared; it simply
means that you are more matured and cultured. Those that value themselves and their lives don’t engage in activities
that will cause them any form of harm.
- Keep a reasonable distance between you and the person:
There was a day I
was discussing with one of my female friends about an event i witnessed somewhere,
and she was also claiming to witness same event. But the account she was giving
about the event was very much different from what actually took place that day.
I told her that what she was saying wasn’t correct, that she’s probably basing
her information on hear-say. I was yet to conclude the statement when she
landed a resounding slap on my cheek since I was sitting opposite her. I was so
shocked that I could not utter a word for the next ten minutes.
Realizing what
she had done, she immediately went down on her knees to plead for forgiveness
that she didn’t intend to do that, that she never knew what came over her. I
just stood there gazing at her not knowing what to say.
What I am trying
to say here is that, if i were at a reasonable distance from her, there is no way
she would have conceived the thought of hitting me without thinking of the
consequences. Even if she conceived such thought, the distance between us would
have constrained her from carrying out such action.
There are some people that resort to violence
impulsively when they feel that they are losing an argument. And one good way
of preventing such people from attacking you or you from attacking them is by
keeping a reasonable distance from them when you observe that such a disagreement has turned into a heated argument, so as to prevent them from physically
attacking you.
- Get hold of your emotion:
People that are
very emotional are very reactive to situations that normally do not warrant
such a reaction. They tend to exaggerate simple actions or words thereby leading
to unbecoming behaviors.
Having your
emotion in check is one sure way of avoiding such unpleasant arguments that are
likely to lead to physical attack. Stop personalizing any word said to you during a disagreement or an argument. Be open minded and make yourself open to criticisms and objections.
- Develop your self-esteem:
People that know
who they are don’t easily get angry when someone fires invective at them.
Build your self image as it will help shield you from some verbal abuse aimed
at bringing you down. People with great self esteem don’t easily get offended
because they know who they are.
- Get hold of your temper:
A person with a
hot temper does not always listen to the voice of reason, they listen to what
their emotion tell them. No wonder they flare up at the slightest provocation;
even in situations that don’t require such response. Those types of people have
difficulty maintaining their cool during an argument or a disagreement because they would want to
impose their views on the other person. And when the other person refuses to
yield to them, physical abuse becomes their next resort.
If you think that
you’re one of those suffering from this sickness of hot temper, then it’s time
you start working on it else you’re bound to have real difficulty when dealing
with people without it resulting to violence. Because not everyone can
subscribe to your own way of doing things. You need to understand that human
beings are different and are brought up under different environment which is
responsible for their views and way of behavior.
- Mind what you say:
The saying that, “he
that has a glass house should not be the first to throw a stone” applies here.
If you don’t want someone to use an unpleasant word on you, don’t be quick to
use it on them first.
Some people so much dislike name calling, but they are
very quick to call others such unpleasant names and don’t expect the person to
reciprocate such a gesture. If you know you can’t stand someone calling you
what you are not, don’t be quick to call others such unpleasant names also.
Most of the
unpleasant things that come our way some times can actually be avoided if only
we don’t let our egos get on the way. You actually can avoid some unusual
confrontations and circumstances by simple putting your ego in check and
following some of the simple tips above.
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