We all know that not everything that happens to us is
pleasant or what we expect them to be. And most times,
when we are faced with
such experiences, it is not the experience itself that produces the greatest
effect on us, but how we choose to react to such challenge or experience. Yes,
we don’t have total control over what happens to us, but we have total control
over how we react to what happens to us. Thus our reactions to the situations
confronting us should be ones that can help us maintain our cool, tackle the
problem head on and reduce the effects of such problem in our lives.
The way we react to a situation will determine the effect
the situation will have on us. Let’s not have it twisted; life itself is a
series of events. And some of these events may not be what we actually want or
expect but that still won’t stop them from happening to us. Most of us may
resort to asking “why me?” or would want to reject such occurrences by being
religious or acting spiritual. But the fact still remains the same: that is, life
is just playing its course. The question is not why should it be you or why
shouldn’t it be you? The question here is, “what should we do when life is
presenting us with situations that are beyond our control and very overwhelming
to us?”
We need to first understand that there’s no problem in this
life that is insurmountable if given some time and a little application of
wisdom. But based on our nature as humans, we tend to get emotional and react
to the situations in ways that they tend to produce very great negative effects
on us than they should have done initially. How are we suppose to face these life’s
challenges without putting our joy, peace, love, health, relationship, life,
etc on the line?
Here are three things you should do whenever you are faced
with a situation that seems very overwhelming to you
- Change it:
I’ve discovered that the first thing most of us do when
faced with a difficult situation is “React”. There’s a huge difference between
reacting and acting. Reaction is an impulsive response to a situation while
action is a thoughtful response to a situation after assessing its entirety.
You can hardly change anything you don’t understand, so the
first step to dealing with the daily challenges life throws at us is to stay
calm and find out ways we can make them go away or reduce their effects on
us. This is what it actually means to “change
the situation”. We simply mean that you should change it to something pleasant.
But don’t forget that changing the situation also requires thoughtful work from
you. So if you can and you have the ability to turn the situation around, then “change
it”. But what if the problem is so overwhelming and you’ve tried all your best
to make it go and it is refusing to go? Then you have to ………….
- Accept it:
Accepting something doesn’t mean you have to like or love
it. This is one of the ways we can actually keep and maintain our calm and
peace even in the midst of the circumstances confronting us. If you’ve tried your
best to make the problem go away but it refused to go away, what should you do?
Should you continue to worry and increase the negative effects of the problem
on us? Or we accept it and maintain our calm and peace in the process?
I think the second
one is the most feasible and profitable. If we choose to worry, the problem
will still be there and we will be killing ourselves the more, so we just
accept it and learn to live with it. With time we will care less about it and
its effects in our lives. But what if we can’t accept it, what should we do? Then
you should……….
- Ignore it:
Some problems fade away with time. Most times the negative
effects most challenges or problems have on us are as a result of the
importance we place on them. If we can learn to ignore some things or
challenges we know that we don’t have the power to change or influence, their
effects on us would be very minimal. There’s no doubt that we may feel their
negative effects on us for some time but as time goes on and with the calmness,
peace and joy that we feel in our heart, we won’t notice their effects on us
anymore.
So if you know that you can’t change it or accept it, simple
ignore it by not making it take over your feelings, thoughts or emotions. As that
is the only way you can still maintain soundness of mind in the midst of the
storm.
You see, though we don’t have the power to control whatever
happens to us, but we have the power to choose how we react to whatever is
happening to us: as that is what determines our state of mind and body during
and after the problem might have been over. Let’s not let life live us by
controlling our reactions and state of mind by the various challenges it dishes
out to us but let us learn to live life by making the most of whatever life
brings to us through our actions.
Don’t forget that “it is not what happens to you that produces
the greatest effect in your life but how you choose to react to whatever is
happening to you”. So be wise and act right because your happiness is in your
hands: not in the things that happens to you.
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