ONE VERY IMPORTANT QUESTION YOU NEED TO ASK YOURSELF BEFORE YOU GO INTO A NEW RELATIONSHIP

If you just recently left a previous relationship or you are single and looking for someone to build a life with in a loving and committed relationship, there is one very important question you need to ask yourself and answer sincerely before you go into your next relationship.  This very question will to a large extent determine the type of person you will open up your heart to and give yourself to in your next relationship.


 It will help you to assess the people showing interest in you in order for you to decipher their real intention for you before giving yourself to them. Yes, most humans are good at pretending and hiding their real intentions until they have gotten what they are looking for, but if you can honestly contemplate on this question and sincerely answer it to yourself, you will be able to break through such façade and see them for who they really are

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The question is simple and straight forward and if you can answer it sincerely to yourself, you’ll be saving yourself from a lot of people out there that only come to you for relationship in order to exploit you. The question is this, ‘what am I looking for in my next relationship?’ that is, what do you want to achieve in your next relationship? Or if you’re already in a relationship you can rephrase it this way, ‘what do I want in this relationship?’ Are you just looking for someone to hook up with and satisfy your immediate needs? Or you’re looking for someone to build a future and a life with in a loving and committed relationship?

This question is very important because it gives you a sense of direction of what to look out for in your next partner; and if you are already in a relationship, it helps you in assessing your partner and relationship in order for you to determine if it is going in the direction you envisioned.  It also makes you understand the stage of life you are in at the moment and give you a clear picture of the qualities you consider as valuable for building long and lasting relationships.

Most relationships fail because the people involved in them never had a pre knowledge of what they wanted from it, so they opened their heart to anyone that showed interest in them and just let things play out on their own. When you don’t know what you want from your will be partner and relationship, anything and anyone that shows interest in you becomes appealing to you irrespective of whether they have what you are looking for or not.

If you can sit down and ponder on this question seriously, you will know why you need a partner, the type of partner you should open your heart to, the type of relationship you’re looking for (no string, open, material or committed relationship) and what you will also have to give in order to keep the partner when you eventually met him/her. It makes you understand yourself more, your needs and your fears as regard relationship and commitment.

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It is important every single individual seeking to be in a loving and committed relationship ask themselves this question as it will help guide them when making their next relationship decision. You need to know what you are looking for in a relationship in order for you to know the type of person you should open your heart to and what you have to do to make the relationship long lasting.

When you let your relationship just play out on its own, then you should be prepared to receive whatever comes your way. Single People that know what they want from their relationship don’t easily fall victim to exploitative people out there because they know what they are looking for and only give themselves to those that want the same thing as themselves. They let the relationship play out gradually and they invest their time into studying the person they are in relationship with in order for them to know if he/she can give them what they are actually looking for.

If you seriously want a partner that is going to take you seriously and be committed to you, you need to know what you want, as this will help you separate those that are sincerely interested in you because they want to build a future and a life with you from those that are coming to you because they want to exploit you. If I should ask you, ‘why do you really want to be in a relationship?’

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