When Should Sex Be Introduced in a Relationship?

When to Have  Sex in a New Relationship

The question of 'when should sex be introduced in a new relationship? ' is a question that is very frequent in most relationship forums and question and answer websites like quora, Yahoo answers, etc. This shows
that sex is a very important aspect of a relationship and its application in a relationship will greatly affect the dynamics of the relationship either positively or negatively. This is why we need to be very careful when introducing sex in a relationship.

The importance of sex in a committed relationship cannot be over emphasized.  Sex enables the partners in a relationship to connect emotionally; builds a strong bond between the partners; makes the partner dependent on each other and helps the relationship runs smoothly.

But involving sex too early in a new relationship can cause great harm to the relationship than good. Just as sex can help build relationships,  so can it also help destroy relationships real fast. Thus, one should be very careful when involving sex in a new relationship.

When you meet someone new, your reasons for being with such person will play a great part in determining when sex should be involved in such relationship. If you're in the relationship for just a fling or you don't want anything serious from the relationship,  then you can include sex in your relationship whenever you want.

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But, if you're not just looking for a fling or a short-term relationship, then care should be taken when involving sex in the relationship.  When you meet someone new that you hope to build a committed relationship with, your goal should be to discover who such a person truly is and find out if he or she has what it takes to build the type of lasting relationship that you seek before anything else.

If the goal is to build a committed relationship, then involving sex too early in a relationship may be harmful to the relationship. Sex creates emotional bond and dependency between the people practising it and I know that you wouldn't want to start depending on someone that you don't even know much about on such a high emotional level.

The dynamics of your relationship will change greatly the moment sex gets involved in it. It's early sex in a relationship that makes many people get attached to abusive partners and tie themselves down in destructive relationships. If you involve sex too early in a relationship that you hope will result into something worthwhile, it may becloud your judgment or perception about your partner and make you stay with someone that may not be right for you.

When commitment is one of your relationship goals, sex should only be involved in a new relationship after you have discovered who your partner is ( that is, their values, beliefs, relationship views, life's views, etc)  and found out if they are ready for relationship commitment and consider you as a suitable relationship partner.

A person may decide to be in a relationship with you for the short term and not consider you worthy for building a long-term relationship with. Thus, it will be to your advantage to first discover who your partner is and why he/she is with you before you should consider involving sex in a new relationship: Unless you don't expect anything serious from the relationship, then you should involve sex in it whenever your partner and you are ready for it.

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